Is the first thing that pops into your mind a naughty child acting like a wild animal?
Do you even believe it exists? ‘because after all we’re all forgetful sometimes’
Is your attitude that it’s used as an excuse for bad parenting or laziness?
This is the horrible stigma that makes it hard to be understood. It’s actually quite a naive way to look at ADHD and isn’t helpful if you know somebody with ADHD.
In fact if your narrow minded thanks for visiting my blog, have a nice day!
ADHD is experienced differently for each individual person. If you have met one person with ADHD, you’ve met one person. Don’t put us all in the same box. It can be quite complex or someone might just have a few mild symptoms. It present differently in everybody.
See the ADHD brain as a load of crossed wires, with some loose or fraid. And a monkey with cymbals controlling it’s functioning.
No body really wants to read loads of science, it bores me and I have the disorder. The above simplifies it and makes it more accurate.
It’s known as a ‘hidden disability’ and i definitely agree with that. It hides in your brain behind a load of doors that are locked with bolts and pad locks. Because the little gremlin isn’t easy to find and isn’t visible. Nobody is aware you have this unless you say, even close family and friends. It presents a lot of symptoms that relate to other mental health issues making it hard to get diagnosed. Or you just have an attitude problem.
One of the main reason I’m doing this blog is to save people the hours of searching thinking they have more going on than ADHD when actually it’s all one big bundle of symptoms. And for people to have a better understanding of what it entails.
Through research and trying to get to know ADHD I was quite disappointed with the fact I had to really dig deep to learn about every layer of the disorder. The first couple of pages when you put ADHD into a search engine tend to just explain hyperactivity, impulsivity and being inattentive but I don’t think that defines it. I think it is named wrong to be honest but if I get into that we will be here all day. I believe the four main roots of ADHD are intense emotion, sensory intervention, behaviour and communication.
These are what people should see repeatedly.
I can’t accept it’s just three categories.
Hyperactivity, impulsivity and being inattentive stem from these roots, they are a small fraction of how it affects a person.
Let’s start with intense emotion because we experience everything in a more heightened way and tend to react to situations more dramatically than the average person.
- Depression (ADHD blues)
- Lack of confidence
- Low self-esteem
- No patience
Emotion links to every aspect of ADHD, so it’s surprising that this doesn’t jump out and hit you in the face online, in fact if I link positive emotion to everything I do I am more likely to follow through.
And if i have negative emotions i can’t function.
Sensory intervention is important to get through the day. It is key to controlling and suppressing ADHD and important that others know it can lead to a meltdown.
- Sensory overload
- Sensory calming
- Physical contact
- Noisy environment
- Sensory toys
I use sensory calming a lot, I’m not ashamed to say I have sensory toys attached to my bags, in my pockets and on my phone. It enables me to function, focus and calm down.
ADHD and nature go hand in hand, being outside especially among green can massively help emotions especially hyperactivity and depression.
However, too much going on can lead to a sensory overload. Something as simple as the light being too bright and the phone ringing can end in a meltdown. Physical contact is huge, a touch on the shoulder can be the difference between me listening and me day dreaming. It can also calm me down. I go for a deep tissue massage monthly and come out a new person.
Behaviour is the main problem that gets in the way of life because ADHD fights against doing what is socially acceptable. It causes a lot of emotional struggle you have to battle with.
All of these are the reasons I get constantly nagged at and told to change my ways. I just can’t seem to follow what is expected.
I generally speak out of turn and offend people without meaning to. I communicate in a completely different way because of the way my brain processes the situation and what emotions I am feeling at the time.
- Speaking inappropriately
- Problems with authority
- Misunderstanding social cues
- Thinking black and white
- Inability to quickly gather thoughts
- Difficulty saying what is thought
- Going off topic
- Sensitive to tone
- Trouble listening
- Blurting out
- Thinking in the moment
- No filter
So, to put it bluntly I can communicate fine if you don’t beat around the bush, your tone doesn’t suggest your annoyed, your patient and I’m not distracted. A lot can affect the way I communicate sometimes I need to just speak my thoughts sometimes I can’t put them into words. It depends on the day and how I am feeling, not the person I am speak to or the importance of the conversation.
I think this basically sums up ADHD, and I think it gives a clearer and wider picture of what it entails. it’s important to know every layer if you want to help yourself or somebody else. They are inter linked together and if one part is misunderstood it can throw everything out of line. For ADHD to be managed all the roots must be firmly in the ground